a bit of a quandary?
My blood pressure is rising.
The bottom line unfortunately is I am not happy, could this be the reason for the spike I wonder?
That and the fact I am eating far more cake and biscuits. Yes you read that right! We have had a lot of building work done, ongoing. This is maybe the crux of this moment in health time. I cook that is what I do, I especially love feeding people. No cheapo own brand biscuits for my workmen. I make them a homemade cakes, scones and biscuits and provide lunch. Trouble is we sit down together and I join in, it would be churlish not to!
The other thing is... I miss my garden and ancient 300+ year old cottage. Sitting yesterday looking out to sea I had a physical pain in my heart thinking back to my wild garden, the pond, greenhouse, frogs and hedgehogs.
This past life is also tied up
with memories of my much loved and sorely missed dog. I am working on the man to convince him we should get a dog, he is staying resolute, firmly against. In fairness, I do blow hot and cold on the idea, as I feel it would be unfair on a dog for me to be constantly comparing. Added to which is it displacement therapy to use a canine companion as a cure all?
Our first Christmas day in Hythe 2017
Keep at him, you may wear him down. It may take a
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Background - My husband grew up with dogs, had them all his life, I hadn't. My parents had a couple of dogs while we were growing up, but not one straight after another as my husband's family did.
Needless to say not long after getting married we got a dog! Before she died we got another. He was a poorly thing and died aged five. We then got two rescue dogs, both from the same home. When they died we got another rescue dog. He died in 2015. By then we'd been married 45 years and had dogs for 44 years and I felt I wanted a rest from dogs, just a change. I've loved them all, each were different; there was a quiet one, a poorly one, a naughty one, a majestic one and a laid back one, in that order. All Irish Setters. I was adamant I wasn't going to have another one and dug my heels in for 18 months to my husband's incessant wanting another dog. We were in our late 60s, hoping to move to Devon and for some unknown reason I relented. Worn down I expect!
Now we have another rescue Irish Setter and he was 12 months old when we got him and into everything. He's calmed down a lot and my husband takes him for long runs (1-2 hours) every morning. He is also a lovely dog, but I just wanted a rest.
So, every now and again mention your need for another dog and he will give in, I guarantee it.
Apologies for the long comment.
Joan (Devon)
Thank you Joan, what a lovely reply... definitely no need to apologise. When and if, like you I would want a rescue dog, in this awful world we live in why would anyone want to feed the puppy farm scenario? I know people say that they had bought them from reputable breeders, Kennel Club registered and all! You just can’t be sure? However reading in the paper today the KC is like so many organisations, not as reputable as folk are led to believe.
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It's looking back that causes all the trouble, I know I'm good at it. We had an allotment with pond bird feeders green house the lot and we loved it, sadly through illness we had to give it up but I still mourn for it.
ReplyDeleteI really am trying to look at what I've got and the future instead of wanting what I can't have but it's not easy.
As for a dog, I'd love one but with 5 cats I don't think they would be very welcoming, I say keep on at him, he'll give in in the end.
Briony
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I know looking back isn’t the best thing: as you know it is very hard not to. These feelings have taken me by surprise as in the past I have always been an onwards and upwards sort of a woman. Just in from a silver wedding lunch with friends and called in on my adopted mum to help her with her television. Must say driving along the coast home I felt better about our new home. It is so lovely here.
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I think you should have a dog if you want one, no other dog is the same as the one you have lost just like no other human is like another, all snowflakes!!! and one would be good for our heart and soul. Love the picture of you walking along the sea. Maybe take a few more walks if you are enjoying too many lovely baked goods. IT is very hard to move forward and let go of lovely places and people in our past. I wish you well on this endeavor. Take care from Iowa
ReplyDeleteSnowflakes... I like that... no two the same. Walking? Since moving here we have walked miles, that was the main reason we chose to live here, so we could walk everywhere and we do! We have two cars, which don’t get used that much. Our family commitments at the moment mean we need both, even though week on week we hardly ever use them! When the builder has gone our diet will revert back to our usual healthy mediterranean style food. He is doing such a super job for us I enjoy feeding him... to coin a phrase... ‘He’s worth it!’
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Hello, I've just come across you, I've no idea where from though, probably another blog! I just wanted to say to you regarding the dog, we've always had dogs too and when our last dog, Barney died we were so grief stricken for so long we decided we couldn't go through that again and would have no more dogs. However, my husband was diagnosed with angina 3 years after our dog died and since then had done very little in the way of exercise - although as a self employed handyman he's always on the go, but not at any fast pace. Anyway, I decided we should get another dog because if nothing else I knew he would religiously walk the dog every day come hail or shine and if I tell you our wee dog is now 5 (we decided to get a puppy this time as our past rescue dogs needed much more retraining than we felt able to do this time) and is the joy of our life. He's very different from our other dogs and we are totally besotted with him. It's hard to imagine loving another dog as much as the previous one but it always happens. They bring such joy to a home and if you are struggling and have high blood pressure, they are a sure way to reduce the pressure! Do you think this is enough to persuade your man to get another dog yet?? lol.
ReplyDeleteThank you for that: it is just the pep-talk I needed, just got to show it to the man now! I think it will happen, although being conscious I am such a force, I am mindful of not brow-beating him. A rescue dog would be the only way for me as our last dog a quivering wreck of six months old to the ripe old age of fifteen and a half was a total joy. A hard act to follow.
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