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Wednesday, 27 June 2018

Mercy mission today...

my lovely adopted mum A is failing, she needs me to take her to the hospital for a hearing test.  Every day we talk on facetime and by her own admission she is getting weaker.  For her to admit this is a major milestone.  All through these last eighteen months of chronic tummy problems she has battled on.  My love and respect for her knows no bounds.  We talk about death, husband is a good man, he didn’t miss a beat when I suggested to him we should look after her affairs when she dies.  A tricky task as what little money she has she wants us to siphon off to her son in small amounts as he has lots of mental health issues.  He lives in a hostel in London after years of living rough.  A. thinks he will 
put a large amount on the 2.30 at Newmarket, that or give it away!  We have interesting times ahead.

On a brighter note, I am out of the way when the chatty tiler man cometh!  A result!  As they say in South London.


The floor last night, ready for the tiles.

6 comments:

  1. Oh dear, what a predicament, and how sad that A is failing. I am sure you will do all you can to help both before the inevitable, and after.
    It will be lovely to see the floor tiles … do photograph them for us I due course.
    Margaret P

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    1. She does look very frail, she is so with-it mentally. The audiologist took a lot of time with her. We came away much brighter and even went to lunch at the Weald smokehouse which is a short distance from her flat. A. thoroughly enjoyed the day although now it seems her kidneys are failing, How she stays bright and upbeat amazes me, her intellect I suspect?

      LX

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  2. Sorry to hear about A. I look after an elderly lady ( she has carers, but they don't actually " care" about her) and she is getting more and more confused! It's not something I volunteered for as I know I am not a patient person, but I am the only one nearby to help when needed. I started off helping with her dog, who now lives with us, but goes to J in the daytime for company. J's son comes every Saturday and I have had to guide him through what is required for his Mum since she suddenly became less capable a few years ago. I had already been through it all with my Mum! I love your red radiator. Look forward to seeing the tiles in front of it! x

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    1. A. doesn’t want or need carers, she does have a lady that comes in to clean once a week. On Tuesday I am taking her back to the same hospital to see the specialist dealing with her tum. Today, I rather smoothly suggested I take a wheelchair, just in case, you understand? She sat in it as we waited for her name to be called to the appropriate department and strange to say she stayed put! Although coming back she did say that she didn’t want the dishy specialist to see how she has changed since our last visit a couple of months ago. It did make me smile as weak as she is these things matter. And who can blame her as I even slap on a tad more makeup! What a pair of ageing groupies we are!

      LX

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  3. Thinking of you as you make difficult decisions.
    The floor looks promising!

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    1. A. makes all the decisions, I just try and help in a supporting role. We are both strong women and have some interesting discussions and negotiations!?!

      I came home to a half tiled kitchen floor, we can’t walk on it yet. I looks superb. Still sitting in bomb site though.

      LX

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I’ll be blowed if...

I am going to let some bugs, flour and water get the better of me! This is the state of play this morning. If you peer close enough...